The One Question that Can Change Everything

Posted on February 10, 2015 in Fulfillment by Sandra Bienkowski

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If I could go back in time and have a little sit down with the 20-something me, I’d tell her:

You have the power to change EVERYTHING in your life.

Think Wizard of Oz where Glinda, the Good Witch tells Dorothy: You’ve always had the power, my dear. You’ve had it all along.

Let’s just say it took me too long to learn that I could unpack my problems one by one. A tattered self-image from childhood left me feeling like an outsider. I felt like a kid looking through a window at other people who had success, loving relationships, and fit bodies. I longed to have what other people had, but I didn’t know how to get on the other side of the window.

I didn’t realize two important things:

1. I was worth it.

2. I could change everything myself.

Today I am right where I want to be. Loving relationship with my husband, two children I cherish, a healthy body, and work that feels on purpose.  I view the missteps in my twenties and thirties as deposits into my wisdom now, but my wish is for other people to learn from my mistakes. When you learn things earlier or faster, you have more time to fully enjoy your life and thrive.

When I wrote The One Question that Can Change Everything for MindBodyGreen I had my 20-something self in mind. This is what 40-something me would tell her. When we are brave enough to shine a bright light on our problems and rid ourselves of any denial, we can unpack our problems and vastly improve our lives.

I hope you enjoy reading it:

The One Question that Can Change Everything

You Can Change Everything

You Can Change Everything


Sandra Bienkowski

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Sandra Bienkowski

Sandra Bienkowski is a nationally published writer and a fun enthusiast, believing every minute of every day is an opportunity to live your best life.


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